Comments on: aftershocks, seven years later http://sheslaughing.com/2008/09/25/aftershocks-seven-years-later/ Laugh often, dream big, reach for the stars! Thu, 08 Jan 2009 13:58:04 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7 hourly 1 By: Mimi http://sheslaughing.com/2008/09/25/aftershocks-seven-years-later/comment-page-1/#comment-2057 Mimi Mon, 29 Sep 2008 12:06:45 +0000 http://sheslaughing.com/?p=1513#comment-2057 My ODD said the same thing to me a couple of times while growing up. The first time was probably after her father split up from his long-time GF, and the next a few years later following his next break-up. It seems that when he didn't have anyone she wanted us to be together though, maybe so I'd fix his 'hurt'? Both of those times I was in a relationship so I don't think it was about having the together stuff but about me always being able to fix things for her and she wanted things fixed for him? Oh, and it seriously surprised me both times too! To even <i>consider</i> that I might possibly ever go back to that life was just too startling! My ODD said the same thing to me a couple of times while growing up. The first time was probably after her father split up from his long-time GF, and the next a few years later following his next break-up. It seems that when he didn’t have anyone she wanted us to be together though, maybe so I’d fix his ‘hurt’? Both of those times I was in a relationship so I don’t think it was about having the together stuff but about me always being able to fix things for her and she wanted things fixed for him?

Oh, and it seriously surprised me both times too! To even consider that I might possibly ever go back to that life was just too startling!

]]> By: annb http://sheslaughing.com/2008/09/25/aftershocks-seven-years-later/comment-page-1/#comment-2051 annb Fri, 26 Sep 2008 00:53:36 +0000 http://sheslaughing.com/?p=1513#comment-2051 I'm not sure that "kids" no matter how old ever stop wishing their parents were together. I know that my stepdaughters - or at least one of them would give anything to have her mom back and for her mom and dad to be married. I think their divorce was very difficult for her and she still hurts from it. I'm sorry your son is hurting - it must be difficult for a young man not to have a "father" in the home. No one can make up for the neglect he feels from his dad, except his dad! I'm afraid some people spend so much time trying to "make up" for a child's hurt that they do more damage by not providing stability and consistency. I think that you must do both and do both very well! In His Love and Blessings, annb I’m not sure that “kids” no matter how old ever stop wishing their parents were together. I know that my stepdaughters - or at least one of them would give anything to have her mom back and for her mom and dad to be married. I think their divorce was very difficult for her and she still hurts from it.
I’m sorry your son is hurting - it must be difficult for a young man not to have a “father” in the home. No one can make up for the neglect he feels from his dad, except his dad! I’m afraid some people spend so much time trying to “make up” for a child’s hurt that they do more damage by not providing stability and consistency. I think that you must do both and do both very well!
In His Love and Blessings,
annb

]]> By: Julie http://sheslaughing.com/2008/09/25/aftershocks-seven-years-later/comment-page-1/#comment-2049 Julie Thu, 25 Sep 2008 22:09:52 +0000 http://sheslaughing.com/?p=1513#comment-2049 I am sorry he is going through that. I am surprised, actually. I will be praying for him. I know his heart is hurting. And I will pray that the ex will take an interest in his children and step up to true fatherhood. I am sorry he is going through that. I am surprised, actually. I will be praying for him. I know his heart is hurting. And I will pray that the ex will take an interest in his children and step up to true fatherhood.

]]> By: Windy http://sheslaughing.com/2008/09/25/aftershocks-seven-years-later/comment-page-1/#comment-2047 Windy Thu, 25 Sep 2008 12:15:06 +0000 http://sheslaughing.com/?p=1513#comment-2047 ((Natalie)) You are such a great Mom. ((Natalie)) You are such a great Mom.

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